How Being an Introvert Affects Your Depression
I know how crucial it is to need regular doses of solitude at least every day. Believe me; I'm the same way. Alone time is essential! On the flip side, I am also all about self-love, mindset and growth development.
I've been struggling with depression for a while now. I work primarily from home, and I love it. Though I love the solitude, I do feel the need for socialization now and then.
The days I force myself out of the house or have human interaction helps a ton. For the most part, I've been re-siting affirmation, creating a daily to-do list, and implementing a self-care routine which has helped. Unfortunately, I feel by me naturally being an introvert it is affecting my depression
Life As An Introvert
II love my alone time. I am naturally accustomed to leggings and sweat pants. They're just so damn comfortable. Sometimes I have to force myself to go out and socialize which seems like a job itself. Yes, I am that mom who will bail on a planned girls night because I'd rather be at home. Lame, I know right. I pick Netflix binging over sweaty crowds any day. I had to start making myself go out and have fun.
Permit yourself to take some time for you! Make more of an effort to treat yourself as far as trips, shopping, mani-pedi's, movies, etc. Connect with current, new friends, and more mommy friends. Getting away from your responsibilities for a few hours is a total sanity saver. I promise you won't regret it.
What's Holding Me Back
I use to use money as an excuse for staying in or not treating myself. I also felt really guilty for spending money on myself when I know I could use that money towards something more beneficial down the road. When you are raising kids on your own without a partner, your finances are constantly on your mind. Especially without a supplemental income like child support.
Even the most devoted and enthusiastic parent needs time to stop and refuel. We should not feel guilty. Taking the time for yourself helps us to be better parents, to reenter the fray with greater composure, humor, and perspective.
We as mothers must keep in touch with ourselves. When we habitually resist allowing some private time to access our current situation, our dreams can slip away, and our vision for our lives gets clouded.
Getting Over Mom Guilt
I have issues with seizing an opportunity. In my early parenting years, I felt incredibly guilty using the money for myself when I knew I could utilize it for my little ones. Nowadays I'm learning how important it is to live life to the fullest and not just be my situation. I am more than just a single mother.
I don't get a lot of alone time I need unfortunately. I think that is why I bail on plans with my friends. When I finally get a baby sitter, instead of getting up and out, I'd rather take that time to embrace the silence of my house. If you're a solo mom, you'd probably understand how this feels.
These days I'm learning how important and somewhat essential it is to get out the house. From my personal experiences, not balancing my needs fed my depression. If you're struggling with this as well learn to when to balance choices between staying and enjoying a night out.
How To Get Your Dream Life
Know that it is okay to take a day or two to yourself and if that seems like a lot start with a few hours and work up from there. I said it once, and I'll repeat it, the trick in life is learning how to use our time well. Parenting is not just about providing; we also have to create experiences and memories.
Every once and a while take off your mom gear (you know those yoga pants and sweats you like to wear), get dolled up and go out with your friends. Being social does wonders for your overall mood and mental health. You don't even need to leave the comfort of your home. Break out some games, movies, enjoy group meal or take out.
It's all about balance. There are times when solitude is extremely necessary to regroup and take a break from the realities of life. Due to my depression, it is also necessary that I have some sort of human interaction to lift my spirits. You don't have to become an extrovert to get through your waves of depression. Pick one day out the week or 2 days out the month for socializing. You'll be glad you did!
I often emphasize the importance of self-care for single mothers. Why is it such a big deal? Glad you asked. See many single moms tend to neglect their own self-care needs which lead to depression or anxiety. Self-care plays a significant role in our mood and overall performance as parents.
Get motivated and held accountable within the group with monthly challenges in my Rockin' Single Motherhood Community. We are always so busy these days that most of the time we are just surviving and not enough thriving. Moms spend so much time trying to be all these different things for our little ones that our dreams and life goals get pushed aside.
Next week, September 11th I will be hosting the #7DaySelfCare Challenge for The Introvert Mom. Forget the lovely Pinterest Pins with the list of activities for a few days or a month of self-care. This #7DaySelfCare Challenge will have you identify what's holding you back and finish the challenge making your new self-care routine. Join this challenge for actionable steps to get you on the path to better self-care because you matter to babe!