Five Known Ways To Manage Your Depression
Are you a single mom suffering from depression? How often do you feel pain and been suffering in silence? Keeping everything bottled in, afraid no one will understand, nor bother to listen. How often do you feel pain? Your thoughts getting so dark, you're just ready to end it all. How often do you feel pain? I think it's so interesting how you can have an abundance of family and friends yet nothing lifts that pain.
What I've learned about depression is that it can affect even the most unsuspecting people. Like how it affects moms like we don't already have enough shit to deal with already. How long have YOU been suffering in silence? While it may be easier, there's definitely a better way. Ready to stop letting depression ruin your life?
We are the people you see that may look like they have their shit together, but we're just barely holding all the pieces. Holding back our tears and struggles just to appear somewhat happy to our families; especially our little ones.
Downplaying how much you are hurting inside and wondering why you're a baby about it. Saying to yourself over and over, "Everyone has financial issues, relationships that end, noncustodial parents who never show up". Here and there you may get glimpses of what happiness feels like, but most days are filled with sadness.
Change How Depression Affects Your Life
Depression is an everyday battle and very few women are seeking treatment for their depression, most likely because of personal finances. Don't let things like money stop you from achieving your dream life. It is possible to make lifestyle changes for FREE. Be strong and determined for you and your little ones.
Suffering from depression in silence hurts you and your family more if they don't know how to help you. Start by checking with your HR Departement to see if your benefits cover things like psychological therapy and antidepressant medications.
Now here's a list of things you can do for FREE to help you with your depression:
- Join a support group or my Rockin' Single Motherhood Facebook group
- Try relaxation techniques, meditation, and breathing exercises (I opted for Yoga)
- Talk with family members or friends, they can be helpful depending on your situation.
- Try talk therapy. Your therapist may recommend self-help materials.
- Regular exercise can reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety.
Let It Out!
When I decided to take action I was pregnant with my son Peyton in 2014. I started to journal so I could put all my thoughts on paper and be able to recall topics I wanted to discuss with my therapist. Journaling also made me feel a little better; like having a weight lifted off my chest.
Confide in a friend or a close family member. The first person I told I had depression was a friend/co-worker of mine from my previous job. Surprisingly she has it too, so it was super comfortable talking to her whenever I felt myself about to crash.
Admission of depression is the toughest part, then telling someone. Once I felt okay to reach out to my family, it felt like a huge weight lifted. It's never easy at first. But if you're reaching out to ask for help sounds pretty amazing to me. Your friends, spouse, or relatives want to be there to support you. Let them!
Time To Make A Lifestyle Change
In my early single parenting years, I felt incredibly guilty using the money for myself when I knew I could utilize it for my little ones. Nowadays I'm learning how important it is to live life to the fullest. Being social does wonders for your overall mood and mental health. You don't even need to leave the comfort of your home. Break out some games, movies, enjoy group meal or take out.
You'll definitely need to make other lifestyle changes like exercising. Start with a 30-minute walk then ease into jogging, and running. For me, I prefer therapeutic yoga which is good for people with depression. If you're in the Atlanta- Decatur area, I would love to link up for a session.
Mental health takes daily work. For me writing about my depression does help. I too still have very bad days. My depression comes in waves, it peaks and it fades. Just hold on babe, it does get better! Also, try making a list of a least 1 - 5 things you could do every day to make yourself feel better (taking a shower, going for a walk outside, putting on makeup, doing your hair or nails, etc).
Your depression may be a personal thing, but you DON'T have to go at it alone! I would love to keep in touch. The main point of this post is to let single mothers like me know that they are not in this alone. I know I don't want to be. Keep me posted on your journey.
I'm only a DM, Facebook message, or email away. Another thing, there will still be bad days, and you will still be sad from time-to-time, and that's completely okay. Keep trying to do things that make you happy and try to be consistent.
I'm Daisha Renee; single mama, foodie, and lover of yoga. Here on my blog I write about the challenges navigating life as a single mother while suffering with depression. I also provide tips to help with overwhelm and practical solutions for single parenting.