What To Do When You're Not Ready To Date!
Have you chosen to be celibate until you find your next relationship? Do you even feel the need to be in a relationship? Lack of sex is pretty common for some single mothers. Especially mothers who have no desire to be in another relationship for whatever her personal reasons. The only thing she may crave right now is some sexual healing.
So don't get all ohhhh gross on me just yet. Masturbation is NOT a bad thing and does not automatically mean you're some sort of nymphomaniac. It's a natural and safe way to experience pleasure when you are not ready to explore that with someone else.
Okay so you've been a single mom now for a while and you're not looking for "love" right now. Or maybe you are and keep striking out. Whatever the case may be, you are downright frustrated and dying for a release.
So what's a girl to do? Considering masturbation, but think it's weird? Are you worried because you think it's not "normal"? Well, let me tell you that you'd be really surprised at how normal it is. If you haven't considered the possibility, here's why you probably should.
am i ready for a relationship?
I remember when I became a single mom for the millionth time. I had absolutely NO interest in dating. Though I may have been ready to move on I wasn't ready to engage in any kind of sexual activity, at least with anyone else. While it may be true what they say about the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. That should not be everyone's go-to for moving on, especially when you are not ready.
I know there are some moms who don't want to have sex outside the security of a relationship. The daydreams are getting out of control, your moods are all over the place and you feel the need for a release. Now if you've never tried it before, do a little research. You may discover some toys you'd like to try or just start with your hand and work up from there.
is mastUrbation healthy?
Yes! Fun Fact, masturbation is more normal for women than you think. While it may be true that there is a higher percentage of men who masturbate than women, it doesn't make it less acceptable. Today's woman can be just as sexual as a man.
The benefits of masturbation are: stress relief, help for insomnia, builds resistance to common infections, and releases mood-elevating hormones. Some women have even admitted that it can be better than sex. Mainly because you are getting what you want. Another fun fact is that there are many women, including single mothers who masturbate at least three times a week.
Keep in mind, while it is normal to masturbate regularly, don't go skipping your daily routine or dodging family for a little R & R with yourself. If you're worried that you may have an addiction, talk your doctor or a friend you trust.
Out of the Question!
Now if masturbating is completely out of the question because of any religious or moral beliefs you may have there are other things to hold you over. At least until the right situation presents itself. Try going for a run, taking a shower, writing in a journal, meditating or spending time with friends/family.
If you've recently become single, then masturbation may be great for you unless you are uncomfortable with touching your own body. It's a lot safer than having a new friend with benefits who may or may not have an STD. Do not feel ashamed or feel guilty for acknowledging your need for self-pleasure.
Don't overthink it. If you need to talk yourself more into why you should masturbate, do your research. Learn the pros and cons (I mean really there really are no cons). Or talk to your doctor.
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