How Single Moms Can Motivate Their Kids to Help Clean
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Lately, I'm meeting women like myself who are trying to figure this single parenting life out. Since becoming a single parent, I've made it my mission to find practical ways to make my life simpler, and I want to do the same for other women as well.
Let's focus more on the good things your kids do, rather than pointing out everything that is wrong? Let us learn how to unburden ourselves from some of these responsibilities and share them. Don't miss this simple idea for encouraging your child and recognizing their efforts.
Parenting is hard; single parenting is even more challenging. It is much more stress and more responsibility when single parenting. We manage so much day-to-day, and we often downplay how much help we need.
In my post, Five Amazing Tips On How To Survive Single Motherhood, I mention how I started teaching my little ones to clean up after themselves to make things a little easier on me. My children put away their toys, straighten up their rooms once play time is over, putting their dishes in the sink or dishwasher once they've completed their meals, and making their beds.
Let me reiterate how crucial it is to teach our children these basic skills. For one they will benefit from it into adulthood. Let's make it a little more fun and reward them for their efforts. This way they will also take pleasure in their work.
When I first became a single parentt I was extremely exhausted trying to do and be all the things. To make my life a little simpler, I started teaching my little ones to clean up after themselves to make things a little easier on me. Now my children now are putting up their own toys, putting their own dishes in the sink or dishwasher once they've completed their meals, and making their beds.
My kids also like helping mommy load and unload the laundry. I cannot stress how important it is to teach our children these basic skills. For one they will benefit from it into adulthood and I'm sure their spouses will thank us too.
Start with simple task:
Putting the toys back in the toy box
Straightening up their room after play
Making the bed (doesn't have to be the neatest we applaud the effort)
Putting their dish in the sink or dishwasher
Throwing their own thrash away once they're done with a snack so you won't have to clean up juices boxes and an empty bag of Cheetos off the floor.
kids cleaning chart
Create a weekly system where your child completes the helper checklist and is then rewarded at the end of the week. It’s a total win-win for both the child and the parent. You decide the appropriate reward, pizza, a trip to the movies, ice cream, or that toy they seen on a Kids YouTube toy review. I usually base my kids rewards by not only the checklist but their behaviors throughout the week as well. Yes, this mom takes mental notes.
We’re just getting started using both the checklist and the calendar with our paw patrol stickers. So if by Friday they've received all happy reports from school they will be rewarded as promised. I'm only using my checklist and calendar for Monday through Friday, and that's because weekends are pretty chill around here. This is what works for me, and my family, whatever you choose to do for yours is fine. You are the mom, and mom is the boss!
what motivates a child
My monthly calendar print out is multi-purposeful. I also use this calendar to monitor my kids’ behavior while in school and daycare. As you all know we live in the age where technology is EVERYTHING. And if you’re a mom you’ve heard of YouTube Kids, PBS for Kids, Disney apps, etc., I can go on and on.
My point being is that our kids are so consumed by their tablets and computers that the need to unplug is real. If they come home with non-happy reports, I do not put a sticker on the calendar, and they lose their tablet privileges. Though I do not need a sticker – calendar system to get my kids to unplug, it sure does give them more incentive to behave in school.
Being a single mom is by far one of the hardest jobs I will ever have. If you are a single mom as well, I'm sure you can agree too. Of course, I can give you advice all day until I'm blue in the face, but it's up to you to apply them in your home.
So, for parents looking for a better system for running your house and lightening up your chore load a bit, then try it out with me and please keep me updated on how this system is working for you!
I'm Daisha Renee; single mama, foodie, and lover of yoga. Here on the blog, I share tips on how to survive the challenges of being a single mom, tips for self-care management, and how to cope with depression. I also provide tips to help with overwhelm and practical solutions for single parenting. If social media is your thing, I would like to invite you to come hang with me in my Facebook Group. Looking forward to virtually meeting you!