Mom Confession: Sick and Tired of Feeling Guilty
I have issues with seizing an opportunity. In my early parenting years, I felt incredibly guilty using the money for myself when I knew I could utilize it for my little ones. Nowadays I'm learning how important it is to live life to the fullest and not just be my situation. I am more than just a single mother.
How often do you get a chance to do things just for you? And when you get the opportunity do you take it?
I am a full-time single mom, and I don't get a lot of alone time, and mostly by choice. I have been a single parent for almost three years now. I nearly ran myself into the ground trying to do and be everything.
Single parenting is very challenging. Also as a mom who is living with depression, it's been the hardest journey by far, and some days I feel like I'm failing. A few weeks ago, I spent a weekend in Blue Ridge, GA with a few friends and some new faces. As a single mama, this was the break that I needed to unwind, reflect, and enjoy myself
These days I'm learning how important and somewhat essential it is to be a little selfish. From my personal experiences, not catering to my needs fed my depression. Always working to pay bills, groceries, and buying kids necessities became so routine.
Now don't get me wrong, I did feel a sense of pride being able to provide for my family. However, with the lack of help from my children's other parent, it seemed impossible for me to even consider the thought of evening spending just a little something on myself. We will spend our whole lives doing for our children, but we still must take care of our physical and mental health. If we don't, who will
To the single mom:
- It's okay to put yourself first. . . .sometimes
- Self-care is essential
- Be selfish
- Live your life to the fullest
- Be kind to yourself
- Stop feeling guilty
- Though it is your most important job, you are more than just a mom
As I mention in my post, 5 Tips On How To Make Single Parenting Work, learn to be okay with doing things that are just for you. Parent time means taking off your mom gear (you know those yoga pants and sweats you like to wear), get dolled up and have a girls night. See a movie even if it's by yourself (yes, I do this). Go for a walk or a run.
Attend a yoga session once or twice a week, trust me you NEED the meditation. Take yourself shopping, even if you treat yourself to one thing you'll feel pretty damn good afterward
For all my new and not so new single parents know that it is okay to take a day or two to yourself and if that seems like a lot start with a few hours and work up from there. I said it once, and I'll say it again, the trick in life is learning how to use our time well. Parenting is not just about providing; we also have to create experiences and memories. We must continue to take care of our mental and physical health to be fit parents.
I'm Daisha Renee; single mama, foodie, and lover of yoga. Here on my blog I write about the challenges navigating life as a single mother while suffering with depression. I also provide tips to help with overwhelm and practical solutions for single parenting.