Self-Care Tips For The Single Mom: How to Handle Overwhelm
Are you struggling with the everyday overwhelm? Once becoming a mom, we stop paying attention to what we need because everyone else needs our attention. We feel this obligation to care for everyone else first that we lose sight of ourselves.
Believe me, I’ve been there too.
Even the most devoted and enthusiastic parent needs time to pause and refuel. We should not feel guilty. Taking the time to stop and take a breath helps us to be better mothers. Try these self-care tips for single moms and get rid of overwhelm!
As single moms, we often struggle with accountability and wish for more time to achieve our goals to start living our dream life. Something I don't do too often is treating myself. I've become accustomed to leggings, my favorite tees, Netflix binging and my couch.
In the past, I used money as an excuse for staying in or not treating myself. I also felt guilty for spending money on myself when I knew I could use that money towards something more beneficial down the road.Think about your current week and begin to visualize all the things that you would like to make up your dream week.
What do you want to add to your daily or weekly routine that will make your life easier or happier? What actionable steps could you start taking TODAY to make that possible? I know sometimes when you are exhausted or super busy it can be hard to even think about how to take actionable steps toward living your dream life, but that is exactly what this post is intended to help you do.
Take a yoga class. . . or two
The best thing about yoga is that it's great for lowering stress levels and helps soothe the mind. If you think well it's probably not for me, I urge you to try it. Yoga is for men, women, children, teens, no matter the shape or size. Yoga is way more than just stretching and being flexible. I started yoga to help with my depression and anxiety; now I love going to therapeutic yoga every Tuesday.
Another great benefit of yoga is meditation. Meditation allows you to embrace serenity. All it takes is some quiet and a few minutes of alone time. Try to implement this into your daily routine. If you decide that yoga is not a good fit for you, then try exercising. Exercising is not only good for our physical health but our mental health as well.
Try meditating today. Starting out meditation may seem a little tedious, and you will have trouble calming your mind, that is why it's practiced. Keep working at it until you reach extended periods of time between thoughts. You can meditate anywhere. Try 10 to 15 minutes of meditation before going into work. You'll be ready to take on the day and feel productive!
Do not try to complete your to-do's in a day
There's never enough time in the day when you have work, parenting, and household chores to do. Not to mention helping the kids with their homework, getting dinner set and baths done. When you just think about that to-do list, you can get discouraged and overwhelmed. Break up your chore list in sections to keep yourself from crashing.
Also get in the habit of creating self-care routines. A self-care routine list could have anything like taking a shower, getting dressed, putting on makeup, or taking a walk outside. Nature and the sunshine usually help me. It's easy to do the slouchy sweats and never leave the house when you don't actually have to. But doing those things can really help you have a better day. So find the things that help you get going and feel better; put them on the list.
Ask for Help
If you are a parent, especially a single one, learn the art of help. I finally learned to start asking for help. My children's grandparents are the bomb dot com! When I know I need a night to myself, especially to focus on my school assignments; I lean on them for that support. It wasn't easy at first. In the beginning, I felt like somewhat of failure not being able to be super mom.
Once I learned that it was okay to reach out to my family, I felt the weight of the world lift from my chest. When help is offered to you take it! Even when help isn't offered, ask. You will be thankful for it in the long run. Even if it's 1 or 2 hours, that's more hours than you had before.
Invest in a Planner.
I use a monthly planner to stay organized. I list all my bills on their due dates, so my brain doesn't go into overload trying to remember if this or that was paid. Along with my planner I use Intuits mint application which keeps you updated on what bills are due and what you have already paid. I have so much going on that I sometimes forget about some of the kids school projects and upcoming field trips, so having the planner helps with that too.
The most effective planner is multi-functional. Planners are also perfect for meal planning. When you're making out that grocery list, refer to what's missing from your pantry or fridge and the dinners you've penciled in to cook. I usually cook just about every other day. Sundays, leftovers for Monday and so on.
The only days I order out are Friday's and Saturday; this plan saves me a nice chunk of change. Depending on how you shop, cooking every other day does not deplete your stock and stretches it out. Now you're less stressed about your grocery bill.
Hearing certain affirmations can be a powerful tool for motivation. The can make you feel inspired, while also addressing and meeting your needs as well. But you may have to be in the right space to receive them.
You see, as a single mom, I often get caught up in every day overwhelm and obstacles that are often thrown in my path that allows daily processes to become a blur. The use of affirmations can serve as a daily reminder to help bring that process back into focus.
These days we as mothers need a stockpile of ways to distress, like doing things to regain our balance and focus. Now that we've gone over these tips, it's time for YOU to put them to action. Make a list of stressors. Start by eliminating the unessential that takes up too much of your time.
I know you're exhausted. We all do so much in the short 24 hours we are given each day, but as you begin to make yourself a priority, your energy will start to increase. Keep a journal of your progress. Start by writing down where you are now and do a weekly or bi-weekly update. Let me know how your life has changed. Reach me via email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
I'm Daisha Renee; single mama, foodie, and lover of yoga. Here on my blog I write about the challenges navigating life as a single mother while suffering with depression. I also provide tips to help with overwhelm and practical solutions for single parenting.