A Day in the Life of a Single Mom
Now you're probably thinking this post is about a single mom's day-to-day schedule, well you're wrong. It's about our day-to-day worries and our lives. The things we go batshit crazy over behind closed doors.
Being a single mom is by far one of the hardest jobs I will ever have. If you are a single mom as well, I'm sure you can agree too. There's this never-ending worry over making sure the kids are fed, clothed, making sure they are in the best schools; with the best teachers, and bills, please don't even get me started on the bills.
Experience is the Best Teacher
Originally this post was going to be named, "Why I started my blog". Well, that doesn't sound very helpful to you at all now does it? I didn't think so. But seriously, I did start my blog as a way to cope with my depression and my thoughts on single parenting. Well skip forward to today, I honestly love creating content and freebies that are helping women like me.
I know for women like me struggle with acknowledging self-care because we love directing our focus onto our offspring because we think it's selfish to focus on ourselves. I know women like me hate the daunting task of going over our finances or even knows where to begin. I also know there are women like me who dream of finishing school or college but find it difficult with children.
First, Here You Will Find Financial Advice for Single Moms
Finances, one of the scariest topics for any single mom. Now I'm no finance guru, but I love sharing any advice I have especially to newly single moms. When you are raising kids on your own without a partner, your personal finances are constantly on your mind. Especially without a supplemental income like child support.
In my post, "6 Goals to Crush This New Year", I stated achieving financial stability as one of my top goals for this year. Not only for myself, but for my children's future as well. I've created my own escape plan, and you should too. You will have to learn how to apply this critical strategy and have to be disciplined enough to follow through on them.
Of course, I can give you advice until I'm blue in the face (for the record I don't really turn blue), but it's up to you to apply them in your life and if you are struggling financially, it is critical that you do. So, stick around and follow my journey to financial stability, not just to read my story, but hope to hold yourself accountable in return.
Second, You Will Find Self-Care Advice
I like to give my two cents on self-care for single moms because it is essential for our well-being. Lack of self-care for any individual can lead to depression, anxiety, or even resentment, especially towards your child. No one is going to tell you every day to get off your ass and go do something fun or relaxing that will recharge your spirit. No mama, you have to be willing to do that.
I know stress so well that it may as well be my middle name. I've had to learn with being okay with treating myself here and there because it's important that I am mentally well for my children. For all, my newly single mothers know that it is okay to take a day or two for yourself. If that seems like a lot, start with a few hours and work up from there. Being a mother is not just about providing; we also must create experiences and memories.
Last but not least, You Will Find Advice for Single Moms in College
Being a single mom juggling work and motherhood is challenging enough. Adding school to the mix makes our job even harder. If you are a new parent, wait a few months before going back to school.
In my post, "How To Ease Back Into School: A Single Moms Survival Guide", I stated how I attended school literally right after I had my daughter and it was an extremely bad idea. Give yourself some time to adjust to your new life as a mother (meaning your baby's schedule), then think about getting back into the swing of things.
I'm not going to lie, it's hard as hell. Finding the right times to sit down and outline a few chapters then type up a discussion and post it before the deadline is a tad overwhelming. My advice for any moms who want to go back to school is to have a good support system and get very organized.
I'm very visual and more likely to remember things if I write them down so I bought a planner just for school. I have a separate planner that I use for my everyday life for doctor appointments, kids' homework due dates, field trips and bill due dates.
Finally, a little clarity
A day in the life of a single mom is exhausting, overwhelming, scary, full of sacrifice, and beautiful; all at the same time. Since I've started blogging and through a few audience survey's I've found that so many women struggle with how to make single motherhood work. That is why my passion is to provide tips to help with overwhelm and provide practical solutions for rockin' single motherhood.
Hopefully, this is the blog for you! If it's not that is completely okay. However, I hope you found a little clarity that you can apply to your life today!
I'm Daisha Renee; single mama, foodie, and lover of yoga. Here on my blog I write about the challenges navigating life as a single mother while suffering with depression. I also provide tips to help with overwhelm and practical solutions for single parenting.