Why You Need to Embrace Single Motherhood
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Now I'll be the first to admit that the acceptance of a situation that you never planned for is a hard thing to do, but not impossible. Over time as you learn, grown, struggle, and persevere you start to see an upside to this new life of yours. You start to embrace single motherhood.
If you're not quite there yet, you may think I'm crazy. In the beginning, it's next to impossible to think of single motherhood as an easy or beautiful thing. In many ways, it's not.
If you're a mom living with depression or any mental illness, you know that mental health takes daily work. Single parenting can also make your depression worse, especially if the mom is not seeking some help or professional treatment.
It took one day for me to gather all my marbles and get it together. My kids are the best motivation. I did not want my inner fight within myself to hinder my children from having the best childhood they could have. I did not want their futures to be a part of what society views as the norm for children who are products of single-parent households. I decided to prosper than just endure and you can too!
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I will do anything for my children. Even days when I feel run down, I get up and work hard. There were days when I didn't want to do it anymore. Those days I knew it was my depression that was getting the best of me. I dreaded picking myself up and going to work. Today I'm in a totally different mindset. I am a single mom. My children are young, but they can see that mama is raising them alone.
I want them to see me getting up and logging on for work with the most positive attitude. I need my kids to see and understand that if you work, you will earn a stable income. You are not defined by your situation based on statistics. Now is the time for rediscovery. Starting over and finding what you love, what inspires you, and drives you. Change how you think about single motherhood from a negative thing to a positive one. You are in control of your own happiness and can't no one tell you otherwise.
If you don't take care of yourself, who will? Your biggest ah-ha moment is when you sit back and realize what kind of childhood your children will remember when they got older. You don't want them to look back and remember mom immobilized in bed for days, in the same t-shirt and leggings depressed about being a single mom.
Take charge of your own happiness. Go to yoga because it gives you the opportunity to refresh and recharge. It's something amazing about taking a day to yourself to regroup. If you feel better on the inside, you'll look better on the outside. You want your kids to remember the best versions of you!
I Don't Stress The BS Anymore
The moment I stopped stressing shit I could not control the better life seemed to be going for me. Acceptance is a very powerful tool for happiness. There will always be times of struggle and uncertainty, but you can't let that get in the way of everything else. Find a balance.
Every single mother's journey is different. I know from connecting with a few women from a few groups that some women have it way worse than I have. Do you know what makes you a rocking mother?
The decision of not being a victim of your situation. Embrace this life. Decide to be more than a number on a chart that has tried to define you and your child's future. If no one has told you this lately, I already think you are pretty awesome! Leave a comment below and let me know how you are embracing single motherhood.
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I'm Daisha Renee; single mama, foodie, and lover of yoga. Here on the blog, I love providing powerful solutions for overwhelmed single moms who struggle with balancing all the components of single motherhood.