Single Moms Can Have a Healthy Sex Life Too

Being a single mom with a healthy sex life is neither a crime or a sin. It certainly does not make us a "hoe" for wanting to date. Honestly, why is our sex life any concern to the world around us anyway? As long a mother doesn't bring every man she sleeps with around the child, being sexually active is perfectly fine. We just have to know the difference between Mr. Right Now and Mr. Long Term.

Society often shames single moms when it comes to sex. As if every single mom is promiscuous and gives it up to every man she meets. That is the stereotype we are dealing with here. 

If only she kept her legs closed, she wouldn’t be in this mess.
single moms can have sex too

This mess? Seriously? Why is it okay for a single father to date, but highly frowned upon for the mother? The world believes we should ALWAYS be home taking care of our little ones. Little does everyone who is NOT a single mom knows you can have a perfectly healthy and safe sex life as a single mom.

Being a single mom with a healthy sex life is neither a crime or a sin. It certainly does not make us a "hoe" for wanting to date. Honestly, why is our sex life any concern to the world around us anyway? As long a mother doesn't bring every man she sleeps with around the child, being sexually active is perfectly fine. We just have to know the difference between Mr. Right Now and Mr. Long Term. 

 

You're a Mom, Not Dead

We go through a lot of shit already. Some of us are left raising our kids on our own, and the others are left co-parenting with their ex. It's understandable for us to feel lonely and want to seek companionship. Why should we only be "allowed" to stay home with our children? 

I call bullshit. It's completely unrealistic for someone to believe that once the mother separates from their children's father, that she abstain from sex until her next marriage. While that is okay for some women, because that is THEIR choice, many other women will have sex with the man they are currently dating.  
 

I am a single mom, Not a Whore

Being a dating single mom with a sex life does not make you a hoe.  I really don't understand how people can think this way. As long as you are being safe, and protecting yourself, having sex is perfectly fine. You don't have to become a spinster just because you have children now.

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Is He Mr. Long Term or Mr. Right Now?

For the safety our kids we do need to ask ourselves this question. That is if you let Mr. Right Now over while the kids are home and they just happen to see him. Come on let's face it, not every guy you date is Mr. Long Term.

I dated a guy a met on Tinder last year, who I knew after our first date that he was a Mr. Right Now, yet I kept seeing him anyway. He was fun, and I haven't dated anyone, but my kids' father up until that point so there was no harm in it. Because I knew this I never let him meet the kids, hell we barely even talked about them, and that wasn't because I was ashamed. I enjoyed being in the company of being around him, being able to engage in adult conversation, and going out.

single moms can have sex too

In my utmost honest opinion, it really is no one's damn business who you are having sex with.  Other than the fact that you are a mom, you are a single woman who has the right to a have a sex life. My only advice is to be safe and know your partners' sexual history to protect you!

 

Hello!

I'm Daisha Renee; single mama, foodie, and lover of yoga. Here on my blog I write about the challenges navigating life as a single mother while suffering with depression. I also provide tips to help with overwhelm and practical solutions for single parenting.