A Letter for Single Moms for When Sh*t Gets Tough
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Have you ever thought about what you wish you knew before becoming a single mom? All the challenges you would endure? I know I didn't. All I knew was the current situation I was in, wasn't the life I was meant for and I deserved better. You and your children deserved better.
The day you entered single motherhood you were hit with a lot of change. Gone are the days of coming home to someone who is splitting the responsibilities of maintaining the home, bills, children or whatever. Everything in your life has changed for better or for worse.
Believe it or not, leaving a toxic relationship with your child's father is really for the best. Most moms leave abusive relationships, someone who consistently cheats on them, no love left to give or a mom like me, to better your mental health.
While it is ideal for you to raise your child together, think about the long-term benefits once the dust settles. I know it may be hard to see right now, but you should never feel regret for doing something that is both right for you and your child. Let me be very clear though, it is hard, but it does get better. One day you will finally be happy, and all of this will be worth it.
For a lot of single moms’ balance, emotional and physical support is hard to come by. Often left alone to bear all the responsibilities of parenting. As a result, contributing to the development of depression. If you're not already, you may experience depression and anxiety symptoms once you become a single mom. Unfortunately, single moms are at more risks for depression than single fathers. I encourage single moms to seek professional help before their depression or anxiety symptoms worsen.
Mothers with depression need to learn to start asking for help. It truly does take a village to raise a child. We need to acknowledge when we can’t do it all on our own and to accept that everything will not get done without feeling burnt out. With the right support, it is possible for single moms with depression to overcome these challenges to have healthy and happy lives with her kids.
A day in the life of a single mom is exhausting, overwhelming, scary, full of sacrifice, and beautiful; all at the same time. You will face challenges, and you will struggle. Don't let that scare you from living your life. Some days you will feel like a failure, other days, you know you got this. You have the motivation and an abundance of love to give your children everything that they need.
Stay strong and continue to be a great mom. Do not dwell too much on what your child is missing. Yes, it would be ideal to have the extra support, but I do believe everything happens for a reason. Give your child plenty of love and experiences that they will remember for a lifetime. Good luck on your journey!
I'm Daisha Renee; single mama, foodie, and lover of yoga. Here on the blog, I love providing powerful solutions for overwhelmed single moms who struggle with balancing all the components of single motherhood.